Most of our problems come down to a sense of separation and a lack of connection. Loneliness and isolation are the biggest diseases on our planet.
We’re constantly set with reminders that we’re all one however, we forget about this basic principle on a daily basis and get caught up in the everyday hustle.
Over 75 years, the Harvard Study of Adult Development tracked the lives of 724 men. Researchers sent them questionnaires, interviewed them in their homes, reviewed medical records from their doctors, tested their blood, scanned their brains, and spoke with their wives and children. About a decade ago, they invited the participants’ wives to join the study.
The study’s lessons aren’t about wealth or fame or working harder. The primary lesson is this: good relationships keep us happier and healthier.
The research found three primary lessons about relationships.
- People who are more socially connected to family, to friends, and to the community are happier, they’re physically healthier, and they live longer than people who are less well connected. And the experience of loneliness turns out to be toxic.
- The quality of close relationships matters. It turns out that living in the midst of chronic conflict is really bad for our health.
- Relationships with people who have our backs provide protection for our brains, and people in relationships where they feel they can’t count on the other person experience earlier memory decline.
The bottom line is that the good life, both quality, and length of life, is built with good relationships.
Rather than focusing on your to-do list this week, I’m challenging you to take a look at your social calendar and connect with your family, friends, and community. Pick a night this week and schedule something on your calendar.
During the social event be totally present and focused on the people in front of you. As you do this watch your conversations and relationships improve.
Over the years, I’ve made more room for social connection in my life and it’s brought me a tremendous amount of joy, pleasure, and purpose.
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