Over the years, I’ve learned that in order to live a healthy, fulfilled and joyful life, FORGIVENESS is an act that I have to practice daily. Sometimes it’s about forgiving myself for something I said or did and at other times it involves forgiving others.
Every time I’m not willing to let go and forgive, I feel a heaviness in my heart that brings me down and keeps me stuck and blocked from moving forward in my life. Can you relate?
The process of forgiveness entails letting go and releasing blame, criticism, and judgment.
Through forgiveness you heal. When you hold on to blame, criticism, resentment, or judgment, you’re never going to set yourself free from the pain and suffering you have experienced.
You may think you have a right to be mad, upset, angry and/or frustrated for that specific situation. I am not saying you don’t have this right, but by holding onto this level of pain, you’re only doing a disservice to yourself by allowing that pain to fester.
Why is forgiveness important? Forgiveness is important because the majority of the time it only affects you.
When you are able to forgive yourself and others for the situations you have been through, you are able to transition into a joyful and fulfilling life. You often think that if you forgive someone you are actually condoning their behavior and what they did to you. This is not the case – forgiveness is about letting go so that you are able to heal your heart and begin to move on.
Another misconception I would like to address is that forgiveness is about forgetting. Forgiveness is not about forgetting what happened to you and inviting the same type of behavior back into your life. When you forgive, you obtain the biggest benefit – being set free from the pain and suffering of the past.
Furthermore, as you go through the process of letting go and forgiving, you don’t have to invite anyone back into your life.
You don’t owe it to anyone to discuss what you are going through or tell anyone you forgive them. You can if you want to and if you feel that it’s appropriate; however, in most instances, all that is necessary and appropriate for you to do is to forgive this person in your heart. With that, you are able to set yourself free.
Here is the thing, if you don’t choose a path of forgiveness, you hold onto resentment, hurt, criticism, and judgment. With this, you continue to be stuck in the victim mentality, which will cause additional pain and suffering. By letting go of the victim mentality, you are able to accept 100 percent responsibility for yourself and this will allow for the journey of letting go, forgiving, and healing.
Ultimately, forgiving supports your choice to live the best life possible.
I encourage you to take the first step down this journey. Once you are able to forgive and let go, you will feel the lightness of simply being.
To help you free yourself from the pain and suffering I encourage you to take 30 minutes at some point today and do the following:
- Think of someone who has hurt you.
- Write a forgiveness letter to that person with whom you are still holding a grudge. Go all out, don’t hold anything back. This is your chance to put it all out there.
- Once you have completed the letter, say “I forgive you and I set you free.”
- Once you have done this, dispose of the letter so that it is no longer in your possession. I would suggest you shred it, or flush it down the toilet.
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