During my morning meditation the idea of setting healthy boundaries and staying true to oneself popped in my mind. I wasn’t always the best at doing this.
Throughout the years, I’ve learned to set healthy boundaries by staying true to my word, needs and desires.
What this meant for me is that I had to train myself to say “no” when I meant “no.” It meant letting go of answers such as, “maybe, I’ll think about it, I’ll get back to you, etc.” when I knew the answer was “no.”
I have to admit learning how to say “no” was one of the hardest things I’ve had to do. The thought of disappointing others by saying “no” was unbearable for me to deal with until I actually did it. Can you relate to this?
When I started to practice saying “no” I felt lighter, happier and at peace. The simple word of “no” allowed me to start living within my integrity and this set me free from pain and suffering.
Pain and suffering associated with being involved and catering to people who didn’t serve me for my highest good and overdoing and over-giving, which usually left me feeling depleted.
A few tips on how to set healthy boundaries and stay true to yourself:
- Keep your word. Your word to yourself is a critical part of your integrity. You can’t fill complete or whole if you don’t honor your word.
- Using the word “no” when you mean “no.” This will improve your life significantly.
- Get to know yourself. Understand your needs and desires.
I’m sharing this because it’s possible to say “no” when you need to.
During a coaching call today, my client shared with me that she said “no” to a potential client that didn’t align with the company’s mission and vision. The reason it was hard for my client to say “no” is because one of her family members was involved in the transaction. Regardless of this, she stayed true to herself.
To see how proud my client was with her decision and to see the energy she was radiating was very powerful. You could sense the confidence boost she got by staying true to herself. So beautiful!
Today, I challenge you to start saying “no” to things and people that you want to say “no” too. Share with me one thing you will say “no” too starting today.
P.S. Forward this post to a friend, family member or colleague who will benefit from this post, so they too can rock n’ roll and create a life and business they love. You’ve got this!